I’ll admit, it’s not the common situation I have going on, and some would call it down right “special”, but it works for us, and most importantly, our kids are happy.
Being a single woman, who would like to embark on marriage again someday, it’s difficult to find a man who is secure enough to deal with my family dynamics. Men who struggle in their own situations, especially, have a hard time understanding how to separate the personal aspect of how I co-parent, from the fact that the focus is truly the child. They become territorial, and intrusive. Not understanding that my family dynamics is as non-negotiable to me as changing my religion would be for the sake of pleasing someone else.
Is it disrespectful that my 10 year old’s father comes to my house and hangs out for a few minutes as he picks up or drops off his son? I work some Saturdays and he’ll be coming to pick our son up for the weekend. If it’s early enough, my son is still half asleep, so should he honk
The horn from the driveway, or meet him curbside, so that another man feel secure about his relationship WITH ME!?! Sorry, but I don’t think so.
I know it’s hard juggling family and personal life. I get it! Everything is not for everybody. Today’s message to you is …. It is OK to set boundaries in your relationships, and to stand firm in what you believe to be right. No one has the right to come into your situation, IF ITS WORKING, and change
It for their own gratification. Your children, and they’re feelings, should never be compromised in your transition from single to whatever arrangement you find yourself in. Respect is relative. YOU set the playing field and the person who wants to be with you will have to know that he can change your game, as easy as he can make you eat that pork chop if you were Muslim!!